This is the final part of Affordable Leather Products' guide to visiting a Female Domme. Obviously we have only covered the bare outlines of what happens before, during and after a Domination Scene, however we hope that this guide has been of use to you.
After care at the end of a BDSM Session
When a session has concluded, it's generally considered to be bad form for the Lady to simply finish and dump someone out onto the streets or walk out of their hotel room. The Mistress should allow you time to "come down" from the highs you have, hopefully, experienced and leave "sub space" (that wonderfully floaty sensation you get after a successful and satisfying play session).
You should, of course, thank the Domme for her time and efforts, and asking permission to give respectful kiss on her boots rarely goes amiss.
You should also offer to help tidy up if necessary, although some Ladies may prefer to do this themselves. Naturally you should change back to your regular clothing (asking for permission to take a shower first if needed) and pack up any toys, outfits or equipment you brought with you.
Feedback after a Domination Session.
After you've recovered somewhat, the Dominant may ask you if you have any observations on the scene, if you do, phrase them politely and constructively. Saying "That was rubbish" is not going to get you seeing her again, however "I enjoyed X and would prefer more of Y but not quite so much of Z" would be acceptable. Whatever you say, don't sound ungrateful, she has put time and effort into what she's done, so express your thanks.
You might also now say "Might I suggest that you could do (whatever) in this way", since you're no longer in the scene, this shouldn't be considered Topping from the Bottom, but again, be respectful of her experience and skills.
Some Ladies may prefer you to e-mail them instead, again, be polite and don't go into excessive details. It's enough to say that something did or didn't work for you and how you might like it done differently.
Visiting a Mistress for a second time
Presuming that you have enjoyed yourself, you will no doubt wish to visit the Dominatrix again, but remember that, whilst you may have every detail of your session laser-etched into your memory, you will not be her only client, so just phoning up and saying "I want you to do what you did last time again" is not necessarily going to be very helpful.
As such, without going into masses of details, explain that she did the following activities which you enjoyed and perhaps she could also do a couple of other activities you request.
Between sessions, DO NOT bug the Mistress or make contact on any spurious pretext. Unless she is advertising for a Personal or live-in slave, don't ask if she needs one. Similarly she will ask if she needs a driver, photographer, web designer, boot polisher or anything else.
Remember still to treat her with the respect that she is due, she will not brook undue familiarity, she is still the Mistress and is in control, don't consider yourself to be a friend or confidant, nor should you presume to ask her to do activities which she has previously said she won't do.
What next
We hope you have found these guides of interest and assistance, as mentioned, they only scratch the surface of what is a very in-depth subject, but we have endeavoured to help out.
Have we helped you out, whether you're a Professional Lady or a client? We'd welcome your comments below...
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Thank you for reading and enjoy your sessions!
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